Refined 2021
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    those who have been abused tend to abuse one of the ways in which refined desires to stop that cycle

    of sexual abuse through forming and creating restorative relationships by providing mentorship services styling services and court support

    advocacy services The heartbeat of refined is the love and compassion that we show a survivor that each

    individual survivor is unique and their cherished and loved just like we are one of the most

    beautiful um memories I have of refined as they came in and they washed the women's feet They couldn't imagine

    why these complete strangers were coming in and washing their feet and praying over them I think that's

    just a perfect example of who refined is they are willing to be the hands and feet of jesus

    that as women would transition through programs graduate programs there would be triggers for them

    if they had to testify in court against their pimp or perpetrator that was a trigger for

    them and we desired to bridge that gap we took them to lunch shopping we engaged in relationship with them

    we supported them from the very beginning until sentencing by just being present with them

    But these women really need a friend they need somebody that is going to go with

    them the long haul through their ups and downs Seeing some of the friendships that refined has brought in you

    just get to see people grow together and here we get to come and people

    have all different stories come from all different backgrounds and um coming together Um just saying like hey

    I can love you and you can love me and we can be friends when

    I first became paired with my faithful friend I very much anticipated the relationship to be something of a

    mentor um mentor leader like relationship I expected to show up and to be advised on the best way

    of living you know to be gently corrected in in ways that I might be a stray and that

    was not at all my experience Um I was truly met with a reciprocal friendship their specific role is

    so beautiful because they just get to be a friend and I think what a lot

    of these women need is the space just to be heard my relationship with my refined

    friend and with the other ladies involved in refined it represented any relationship I could ever have again and

    the relationship with a fine friend is unlearning old things while re learning a new way and

    it's worth it When I came into this program I left everyone that I knew from my past so I

    don't have a lot of friends coming into this and the refined having a friend that

    has the same mindset as me is sober Um someone I can honestly trust and respect

    it's very important because I didn't have a lot of that in my past So the first day that

    I met with my survivor friend it was weird because it was like I had just met up

    with somebody that I hadn't seen in a really long time and it felt so natural God had definitely just

    ordained that friendship And so it was very it was very easy just to connect with

    her It's not something you just do and you don't get invested in despite the risk of that friendship being

    severed or them going back to the life That's all a part of it Part of the commitment

    and it's totally worth it refined has brought a lot of stability when it comes

    to our volunteers Find really has been a steadfast presence for the women are volunteers know that

    there are going to be taken care of the survivor knows that she doesn't have to

    worry about anything and the director knows she can always come to us with whatever issue was

    brought to her refined has created a very distinct model that we believe is duplicate herbal and our

    hope and goal is to provide our support and services two programs throughout the nation Our goal is also to

    bring on more mentors and faithful friends and people to serve these women and we need the church to come

    alongside us to help make this happen We need to be prepared to help those who have been

    exploited on any level to gain back their identity and their life I think a lot of people like

    to think that love at first sight is absolutely crazy but it's really not That's probably the easiest love there

    is it's love it full site That's what's difficult and that's what you're doing You're loving these

    people with full side of what's going on Even if you don't know every detail when you look at christ

    and what he did when he was here on earth he engaged with the most vulnerable

    communities those who are outcasts And that's what we're called to do The way that the refined women are

    loving other women is how jesus calls us to that's how jesus loves us You know And if

    I know anything about jesus it's that he loves me and he wants me to love other

    people What I mean what else do you need from that That's everything I love

    What Isaiah says in chapter 61 verse three when he says that we are to bestow on them

    a crown of beauty instead of ashes The oil of joy instead of mourning And a garment of praise

    instead of a spirit of despair When I think of refined that is what we are

    doing That crown of beauty is the cosmetology piece that we bring in and providing self worth and

    dignity The oil of joy for heart that is hurting that is dry that is in need

    We come alongside them in our faithful friend program It is like that oil a bomb to a

    dry soul and the garment of praise That's that's our styling service that we provide for job readiness

    court support advocacy Again to bring confidence self worth and to be christ to them